September 13, 2016

A Damaged Flower Still Blooms

Many women suffer from being abused from such a young age. They are abused mentally, physically, and sexually before they even had the chance to grow into the woman that God has called them to be. When your innocence is shattered at such a young age, it has the potential to damage you for the rest of your life. You can become bitter, hurt, ashamed, guilty, angry, distrustful, guarded, etc. All of these emotions are of the devil. They hinder you from experiencing what the love of Christ feels like which is, 

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant  or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

 Think about a flower! When in spring, it is in the beginning stages of life and is very vulnerable. It needs time to develop, mature, and grow into something beautiful. It it delicate and soft and the process can't be rushed or it will damage the flower before it had a chance to grow into its full potential. Now let's imagine that that flower bud represents your young spirit. When you were born and took your very first breath, the angels in heaven rejoiced because they knew your potential and knew the plans that God had for you. At that same moment, the demons in hell shuddered because they also knew the plans that God had for you. So even in your early beginning the devil knew what was just released into the world and had his demons from hell on assignment to you.

When you were molested and/or abused, it was designed to stop you from becoming the woman of God that you were called to be. BUT GOD!! See you are an over-comer and you can and will continue on your path that God has assigned you. The devil is a liar!! He is scared to death of you, that's why he sent attacks on you from the very beginning to stop you. But he can't stop what God has already put in motion. The devil doesn't attack what's already his or what is not a threat!!

If you have been molested/abused: pray that God will restore you, ask for the strength to forgive those that have hurt you, and rejoice because you are now a new creature in Christ! What the devil meant for harm, God is using for your good! Now you have become the kind of woman that when you open your eyes each morning, all the devils in hell will mourn and say "She's up!!!"

September 4, 2016


Ladies, let's talk! It breaks my heart to know that many of you are struggling with feelings of "not enough". You feel that you are not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, strong enough, sexy enough, worthy enough, and so on and so on. Here's the good news, "You are ROYALTY!!!" Your father in heaven is the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords! So that, my dear, automatically makes you a princess. The best part about all of this is that you don't have to do anything to earn it. Your crown has already been bought and paid for by the precious blood of Jesus.

See life can make you feel not enough. Bad relationships(Lord knows I've had my share) can make you feel not enough. Failed goals(I've had lots) can make you feel not enough. That's just the enemy trying to make you put down your crown, or lower your head so that your crown falls off and breaks. See he can't take your crown off of your head, he can only send situations, hardships, etc to make you remove it yourself. The devil is a liar!! Pick up your crown and know that no matter what the circumstances are, you are still royalty!!

August 19, 2016

Get a Divorce!!

How many single people understand that you may first need to get a divorce in order to have the Godly spouse that God has for you. Let me explain... Whenever we are intimate with someone we have now created a soul tie with that person. When we lay with someone, we have just entered into an agreement of spiritual connection.

As in marriage, Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh....Genesis 2:24

Or in sin, What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.... 1 Corinthians 6:16

Soul ties are strongholds created to torment your mind, body, and soul!! 

Ways that soul ties are created are sexually, spending time, flirting, talking to, relying on etc... They are mental strongholds that create a blockage in your love life and prevent God from giving you the person that He designed for you. God will not send a righteous child of His to you if you're still laying up with so and so. In other words, you can't say you're waiting for Boaz while sleeping with Bozo in the meanwhile!! God will not bless that mess!

Prayer for broken strongholds, fasting, and covering by a spiritual leader will help you regain control back over your love life.You have to divorce those ties in order to gain a healthy relationship. If someone is still present in your heart but not present physically, their is still no room for them emotionally. This also applies to a person that's married! You are NOT fully present with your spouse if someone else shares your time, your mind, your heart, or your bed.

GET A DIVORCE!!! Set yourself free so that you can have the love that God ordained for your life!

July 18, 2016


How you treat your spouse is a direct reflection of you! When you are married you are essentially one in the same according to the word.

Mark 10:8~and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

So why then would someone treat another, who they vowed to love honor and cherish, like anything less than? The answer is simply that's how they usually feel about themselves. See "like" attracts "like". For example, if a woman consistently cheats, then she feels she is not worthy of being faithful to. So she has a "get them before they get me mentality" because in her mind it's going to happen anyway. So why not be the first one because she will never be anything but a side piece and in turn treats him as such. Another example is a man who abuses a woman. It's because he feels broken and worthy of abuse and maybe has been abused himself. His weakness is reflected in her eyes when he hits her. He then attacks her but is actually attacking his own weaknesses and the pain he feels toward himself or the abuser that was once abusing him.This is just an attack on the mind by the enemy!

You have to first love yourself before you can then love others. Because no one can give what they don't have for themselves. You have to accept God's grace, love and forgiveness for yourself so He can heal any brokenness within you. "Hurt" people "hurt" people but "healed" people "heal" people!

Treating your spouse well means you directly benefit from this. If you want to feel valued, value her. Think of it this way, you can't treat someone like a jester and expect king behavior from them. You can't treat someone like trash and expect them to smell like roses. If your wife smells with bad behavior; clean her with compliments and wash her with the word.

Remember, if you treat her like a queen... she will feel like a queen. The man that is married to a queen is always a king!!

July 13, 2016

Ride or Die Consequences

There's a saying that goes, "ride or die." The saying implies that someone will be there for a person when they're down, or stay with them no matter what. This quality is admirable and should be a balanced, give and take, part of any relationship. But there can come a time when it can become one sided and not benefit you. Know when enough is enough!! A person can ride with someone way past time; you can wait for financial assistance from them that never comes, you can tolerate cheating for way too long, you can be abused both mentally and physically, etc. Examples of this is when you're faithful to someone in prison for years that won't even be faithful during your shift at work! Or when you ride with someone ten years who won't ride to the jewelry store to buy an engagement ring? God did not create ANYONE to be somebody's fool!! It's one thing to help somebody when they need you but make sure you ask yourself if they would do the same for you? If you have trouble answering that then remember what they have done "for" you or "to" you recently and that should answer your question. Don't ever constantly give to someone who never gives back, this includes both family and friends. You'll know when you have given too much because you can feel it in your spirit that you are drained, tired, and worn out. When you ride too much you could die spiritually, mentally and even physically.