August 19, 2016

Get a Divorce!!

How many single people understand that you may first need to get a divorce in order to have the Godly spouse that God has for you. Let me explain... Whenever we are intimate with someone we have now created a soul tie with that person. When we lay with someone, we have just entered into an agreement of spiritual connection.

As in marriage, Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh....Genesis 2:24

Or in sin, What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.... 1 Corinthians 6:16

Soul ties are strongholds created to torment your mind, body, and soul!! 

Ways that soul ties are created are sexually, spending time, flirting, talking to, relying on etc... They are mental strongholds that create a blockage in your love life and prevent God from giving you the person that He designed for you. God will not send a righteous child of His to you if you're still laying up with so and so. In other words, you can't say you're waiting for Boaz while sleeping with Bozo in the meanwhile!! God will not bless that mess!

Prayer for broken strongholds, fasting, and covering by a spiritual leader will help you regain control back over your love life.You have to divorce those ties in order to gain a healthy relationship. If someone is still present in your heart but not present physically, their is still no room for them emotionally. This also applies to a person that's married! You are NOT fully present with your spouse if someone else shares your time, your mind, your heart, or your bed.

GET A DIVORCE!!! Set yourself free so that you can have the love that God ordained for your life!

July 18, 2016


How you treat your spouse is a direct reflection of you! When you are married you are essentially one in the same according to the word.

Mark 10:8~and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

So why then would someone treat another, who they vowed to love honor and cherish, like anything less than? The answer is simply that's how they usually feel about themselves. See "like" attracts "like". For example, if a woman consistently cheats, then she feels she is not worthy of being faithful to. So she has a "get them before they get me mentality" because in her mind it's going to happen anyway. So why not be the first one because she will never be anything but a side piece and in turn treats him as such. Another example is a man who abuses a woman. It's because he feels broken and worthy of abuse and maybe has been abused himself. His weakness is reflected in her eyes when he hits her. He then attacks her but is actually attacking his own weaknesses and the pain he feels toward himself or the abuser that was once abusing him.This is just an attack on the mind by the enemy!

You have to first love yourself before you can then love others. Because no one can give what they don't have for themselves. You have to accept God's grace, love and forgiveness for yourself so He can heal any brokenness within you. "Hurt" people "hurt" people but "healed" people "heal" people!

Treating your spouse well means you directly benefit from this. If you want to feel valued, value her. Think of it this way, you can't treat someone like a jester and expect king behavior from them. You can't treat someone like trash and expect them to smell like roses. If your wife smells with bad behavior; clean her with compliments and wash her with the word.

Remember, if you treat her like a queen... she will feel like a queen. The man that is married to a queen is always a king!!

July 13, 2016

Ride or Die Consequences

There's a saying that goes, "ride or die." The saying implies that someone will be there for a person when they're down, or stay with them no matter what. This quality is admirable and should be a balanced, give and take, part of any relationship. But there can come a time when it can become one sided and not benefit you. Know when enough is enough!! A person can ride with someone way past time; you can wait for financial assistance from them that never comes, you can tolerate cheating for way too long, you can be abused both mentally and physically, etc. Examples of this is when you're faithful to someone in prison for years that won't even be faithful during your shift at work! Or when you ride with someone ten years who won't ride to the jewelry store to buy an engagement ring? God did not create ANYONE to be somebody's fool!! It's one thing to help somebody when they need you but make sure you ask yourself if they would do the same for you? If you have trouble answering that then remember what they have done "for" you or "to" you recently and that should answer your question. Don't ever constantly give to someone who never gives back, this includes both family and friends. You'll know when you have given too much because you can feel it in your spirit that you are drained, tired, and worn out. When you ride too much you could die spiritually, mentally and even physically.

May 24, 2016


Whenever you see a single mom and kids that are acting out of control, its because they are. They are simply missing the head(man) from the body. 1 Corinthians 11:3~ "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."

Nothing can function without the head!! Any animal that has its head cut off goes into a chaotic frenzy; running wildly, falling over things, stumbling over itself before it lays dead. This is also the chaos that families are in without its head. This frenzy manifests itself in many ways; partying, self medicating with alcohol and drugs, kids acting out, fighting with peers, etc... 

It is not God's desire for women to be left alone to fend for themselves and their children as they are the weaker vessels. They are vulnerable to the enemy's attacks; spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Remember, the goal is to cut off the head and the end result is death.
Genesis 2:18 says, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." But that also works both ways! Proverbs 18:22 says, "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD." 

Families are under attack and need to stand united against the enemy!! We need men to take their place as the head of the households and women have to allow it to take place. This is not to say that all will be perfect, but so that God can stand with the family! Ecclesiastes 4:12~Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

April 25, 2016

Pimps in the Pulpit

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There is an epidemic of men in ministry who are pimping from the pulpit. Ministers, clergy, music directors, etc. are leading many a women to bed instead of to the bible....Some men in ministry are treating the ministry as their own personal harem of concubines.

Ladies, Matthew 7:6 says, "Do not give what is holy to dogs." And some men in ministry are barking! Remember, if you lay down with dogs, you'll rise with flees. Are you scratching? The scripture also says, "don't cast your pearls to swine." Let's not continue to play in the mud with pigs and expect not to get dirty.

We have to close our legs and open our bibles so that we can resist, or break free from sexual sin. Let's not ride that train straight to hell behind a false prophet. And if you're not sure if he is a false prophet, then remember this, if he's trying to sleep with or or has slept with you, that's a hint and a half! 

Men in the ministry, I'm asking that you pull up your pants, push down your ego and be about the business of the Lord. Don't just preach about it, be about it!! Get your flesh under subjection, resist the devil and he shall flee.

Fasting and prayer are ways to have freedom from the past and to walk toward your glorious future. Even if it was yesterday, that's still the past. Both men in ministry and their participants can both be set free and made whole in Him that they serve.

I now declare and decree that whomever has been involved in this has now been released of this bondage!!! Be free, walk in your newness and praise God!

Please share this, so that anyone who is suffering can be set free!!