Reflection

How you treat your spouse is a direct reflection of you! When you are married you are essentially one in the same according to the word.

Mark 10:8~and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

So why then would someone treat another, who they vowed to love honor and cherish, like anything less than? The answer is simply that's how they usually feel about themselves. See "like" attracts "like". For example, if a woman consistently cheats, then she feels she is not worthy of being faithful to. So she has a "get them before they get me mentality" because in her mind it's going to happen anyway. So why not be the first one because she will never be anything but a side piece and in turn treats him as such. Another example is a man who abuses a woman. It's because he feels broken and worthy of abuse and maybe has been abused himself. His weakness is reflected in her eyes when he hits her. He then attacks her but is actually attacking his own weaknesses and the pain he feels toward himself or the abuser that was once abusing him.This is just an attack on the mind by the enemy!

You have to first love yourself before you can then love others. Because no one can give what they don't have for themselves. You have to accept God's grace, love and forgiveness for yourself so He can heal any brokenness within you. "Hurt" people "hurt" people but "healed" people "heal" people!

Treating your spouse well means you directly benefit from this. If you want to feel valued, value her. Think of it this way, you can't treat someone like a jester and expect king behavior from them. You can't treat someone like trash and expect them to smell like roses. If your wife smells with bad behavior; clean her with compliments and wash her with the word.

Remember, if you treat her like a queen... she will feel like a queen. The man that is married to a queen is always a king!!

Ride or Die Consequences

There's a saying that goes, "ride or die." The saying implies that someone will be there for a person when they're down, or stay with them no matter what. This quality is admirable and should be a balanced, give and take, part of any relationship. But there can come a time when it can become one sided and not benefit you. Know when enough is enough!! A person can ride with someone way past time; you can wait for financial assistance from them that never comes, you can tolerate cheating for way too long, you can be abused both mentally and physically, etc. Examples of this is when you're faithful to someone in prison for years that won't even be faithful during your shift at work! Or when you ride with someone ten years who won't ride to the jewelry store to buy an engagement ring? God did not create ANYONE to be somebody's fool!! It's one thing to help somebody when they need you but make sure you ask yourself if they would do the same for you? If you have trouble answering that then remember what they have done "for" you or "to" you recently and that should answer your question. Don't ever constantly give to someone who never gives back, this includes both family and friends. You'll know when you have given too much because you can feel it in your spirit that you are drained, tired, and worn out. When you ride too much you could die spiritually, mentally and even physically.

Decapitated

Whenever you see a single mom and kids that are acting out of control, its because they are. They are simply missing the head(man) from the body. 1 Corinthians 11:3~ "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."

Nothing can function without the head!! Any animal that has its head cut off goes into a chaotic frenzy; running wildly, falling over things, stumbling over itself before it lays dead. This is also the chaos that families are in without its head. This frenzy manifests itself in many ways; partying, self medicating with alcohol and drugs, kids acting out, fighting with peers, etc... 

It is not God's desire for women to be left alone to fend for themselves and their children as they are the weaker vessels. They are vulnerable to the enemy's attacks; spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Remember, the goal is to cut off the head and the end result is death.
Genesis 2:18 says, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." But that also works both ways! Proverbs 18:22 says, "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD." 

Families are under attack and need to stand united against the enemy!! We need men to take their place as the head of the households and women have to allow it to take place. This is not to say that all will be perfect, but so that God can stand with the family! Ecclesiastes 4:12~Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Love

I really appreciate any free time that I can get to focus on me and my husbands life together. Marriage can become routine in our home, because we get caught up in the race of errands, bills, laundry, work, and of course five children running around the house, etc... We always work hard to find any chance to regain that lost first kiss feeling and to rekindle that spark that had dimmed through the years. We actually still date each other. We both made a decision that we'd go out on a date at least every two weeks. It helps keep the love fresh between us. We love Valentine's Day and the fact that we can be extra loving and go make a whole special day out of showing affection to each other. We act like two teens in puppy love. Romance is essential in keeping us happy and in love with one another.




When we as parents are loving and happy, then it flows over to our children. They really benefit from growing up in a loving environment. When I get dressed to go on a date with my hubby, the kids gather in the bathroom and make googly eyes at me saying ooohh you have a date momma. That is just too cute!! Whenever we smile, it makes them smile too! When we show care towards each other, we are showing Christ.




It only takes your time to be able to make someone feel special in your life. Gifts, flowers and candy are great. I personally love all of the above. But I love when my children give me big hugs. I love it when my hubby gives me foot rubs after a hard day. My husband loves the attention I give him when he's had a bad week. Take the time to show others you care and you don't have to spend any money!! Open your heart to people you may not know and watch God work in your life.


Christ first loved us. So much so, that He died just for us. That's why loving people are most important in my life. My family and I strive to love each other. It makes our home feel complete, when everyone feels they are an important member of the family. I show love to my family when my life lines up with what was commanded by the Word of God. The scriptures mention love over 400 times. We can show love in the simplest of ways. God commanded us to love one another, that is the greatest motivator to love others just in and of itself.

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
John 13:34

Love worketh no ill to his neighbour: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.
Romans 13:10

And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.
1 John 4:16

But as touching brotherly love ye need not that I write unto you: for ye yourselves are taught of God to love one another
1 Thessalonians 4:9

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
Titus 2:4


These are just a few of the scriptures that are listed in the Word of God. But the best one that really describes exactly what love is, is the one that touches me most. I hope you and your families be blessed with love and happiness all the days of your lives.


Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous;
love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly;
it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails...But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7,13



 

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100 reasons...link up

I wrote a post a while back called 100 reasons  I love my husband! It is ALWAYS on display on my sidebar. Every time I read it I can't help but smile and be grateful for the man I married. Then Renee joined in with her list and I just felt something leap in my spirit. I think we all can benefit from finding the good in our husbands  and link up to share them together. Not only will it be fun to read all the many reasons we all love them, but it will be great motivators on those days we need a reminder. Let the kids read it to show a wife's admiration for her husband and marriage. Also, as a bonus, you could surprise him and let him read it. Think of how proud he would be to know that you posted of your love for him for the whole world to read!!

Let's focus on the many ways we admire, respect and love our husbands, instead of clouding our minds with negative things or man bashing with friends. This will only tear down a marriage, but keeping our hearts and mind on positive thoughts about our husbands will only built up a marriage. So, let's encourage one another to lift up our husbands! For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he...Proverbs 26:7

To join in, just write a post listing 100 reasons why you love your husband. Take as much time as you need because this linky will NOT close. Then copy/paste the button on that post or on your blog, so others will come share their list and link up too. Now come back and link up your blog post. I really look forward to reading your lists and I know your husbands will too!!

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selfishness in marriage

Marriage is not perfect! By its very design you are bound to face some bumps and bruises along the way. Think about it, you take two different people, who have been raised by four different types of parents and have a whole different set of ideas and wants in life. Add to that their own separate personalities and the fact that they have been single for years and living for themselves, you're bound to run into some issues. 

It is not to say that it is impossible to have a happy, healthy, wholesome marriage. You just have to get rid of selfishness to do it. Alot of times we focus on me, me, me and not enough of we, we, we. The key word in selfish is self! When the majority of your thoughts are on self, you don't have room for anyone else. You can't be married and still want to live single by putting your needs first. The needs of the marriage comes first now that you are joined with someone else.

If you stop and think about all that you have given up or lost, you will miss the blessings in what you have gained. The enemy wants you to focus on you and let your marriage suffer by doing so. Not to mention that has it ever occurred to you that you are not the only one who's life has been altered. No one is perfect, not even you. You have flaws and shortcomings just like your husband, so try not to be so hard the next time a situation doesn't work out right. Just show him love anyway!

Just by showing love, you can overcome the many obstacles that many marriages face. You don't need another reason to love your spouse other than just for being them. When you show your husband I love you for just being you, you have said a lot. This means he doesn't have to do or be anything to get your love, honor and respect. That in and of itself is a very powerful message to send to someone you are willing to spend the rest of your life with.

So get rid of self and gain us! 

Your husband, Your stylist

I love watching shows like, "How Do I Look and What Not To Wear". I often take some of the fashion advice from those shows that are more modest. But one thing I didn't know was that I had my very own God appointed personal stylist right here in my own home!!

One day the spirit laid it on my heart to actually ask, yes ask my husband what he thought of what I was wearing. He said the usual, "You look great in whatever you wear Sweetheart!" But I pressed him a little more. Finally he sat up and smiled, actually shocked that I wanted him to critique my outfit. He did so and to my surprise it was more dressier than what I would wear. My husband wanted me to look more chic and less frumpy. I took him shopping with me on occasion and he picked outfits with more colors and sass than I would have. I love the way I look and feel in what he chooses and he has stopped me from making several fashion mistakes.

It came as a big surprise to me that my husband views on what looks good and mine were different. Not that I looked horrible, just that I didn't take into consideration what he thought looks good on me. I figured that he's a man, he really doesn't care as long as I looked presentable. So, there I was, dressing to what was comfortable to me. That was a few years back and since then I no longer seek approval of what trends are in or what my girlfriends think looks good on me. I'm only interested in having "one" man love the way I look and that is my husband, Michael.

We even had a talk about modesty. I always assumed that he didn't want anything showing. He let me know that from breast to knees were what he wanted covered. Sleeveless wasn't a big deal for him, or off the shoulder, as long as no cleavage was exposed. Skirts and dresses were fine but, he preferred jeans. I was soo surprised because long skirts to the floor and long sleeves was what "I" felt was modest.

Now I often include him and ask his opinion on how I look. It's like having my own personal stylist and the best part is, he works for free!! Another great perk, I don't have to guess if my husband will love it! I know he will because he gave his seal of approval before he sees the finished look. I don't take him shopping every single time and I don't have to wait until he gets home just to get dressed. I just include his favorite choices and try to keep what he loves to see me wearing in mind when I shop.

I challenge wives to include your husband in your wardrobe selection. You may have two very, different ideas as to what is modest or what he finds appealing. After all, we do want to look attractive for our husbands. The benefits are that you know that he will love it, instead of relying on the sales clerk saying he will. God has put him as the head and anything he chooses as a man of God will reflect in his decision to also please Christ, and he will always put your best foot forward in comfort and in style!

Titus 2sday

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His rib

I have been studying on what my role in Christ is as a wife. God is one of completeness and order. His ways are always perfect! So when my Lord created women, He created what our roles in this world should be also. The great thing about being His child, is that He will never leave you without clear directions. Our roles as wife and mother are laid out in the word of God. I die daily to cleanse myself of all worldly knowledge that does not direct me towards Him.

rib = to furnish or strengthen. To enclose.

What does it mean to be your husband's rib? It is really a position of great power and influence. As a wife and the closest person on earth to him, you decide what kind of existence he will have. If he will enjoy his life at home or will he avoid his home altogether. A rib is vital in holding up a man. We are his support to his very being. A man with a Godly wife walks taller and is proud to be the head that God assigned him. But when it is broken, his rib can cause him great pain. Hindering his progress in life. A man can't work and provide efficiently, when he has lost full support of his rib. We are extensions of our husbands. We can't thrive in Christ without each other.

Genesis 2:18 The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

Genesis 2:23 This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, for she was taken out of man."

Ephesians 5:21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

I want to vow to live my God given role as a wife to my husband. I want to be his rib that protects his life organs and support his very being. I long to walk along side him and help him complete his work God assigned him, knowing that as his wife, I will benefit from all blessings that pour out from heaven. I want to be blessed and held in high regard because I chose to follow my Father's will. With God's help, I will achieve this and more that is pleasing to Christ.

 Titus Tuesday
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Marital Oneness 
Domestically Divine Tuesday

good thing

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, 

and obtaineth favour of the LORD...Proverbs 18:22

Would you be considered your husbands good thing? When a man finds his wife, he's found his missing rib. A rib that protects his most vulnerable organs and helps support him when he walks. When you are behaving like a good thing, all of these things and more are true. You protect his secrets and don't badmouth him to anyone. He also walks taller when he has a good woman by his side. God has laid out for us everything we need in the bible to be able to be a good wife.

Don't let the devil come in and whisper in your ear to make you tear down your own marriage. Stand fast in your righteousness towards the treatment of your husband. You are his good thing, that God ordained just for him. You are his most precious gift from heaven.Take heed not to act as if you've come from hell. Your husband has an assignment that has been assigned to him from the most high. You have been designed as his good thing to help him along the way. 

If you find yourself acting less than holy with your husband, 

remember you are beautiful, strong, loving, a help-meet, blessed

a good thing!!

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Far Above Rubies

treat him like royality

One thing that I'm learning in my marriage is that if I treat my husband like the king he is in Christ, then that makes me the queen. And I love the idea of being the queen of my home! I've learned that treating him like anything less and you get what you've sown into him back. For example; if you treat him like a dog, don't be surprised when he has a growling temper. You scold and nag him like his mother, then he'll probably act like a rebellious teen. And so on... So, I've decided that if I want kingdom behavior, I must bestow kingdom honor upon him. 

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 

...1 Peter 3:1

like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. 

...1 Peter 3:6

Actions are not the only way to honor my husband. There is power in the tongue and with it, I can uplift or break his spirit. So, I'm very mindful of that fact. I speak to him with a sweetness that only a queen can give. I don't want my king dishonored or worse not wanting to be home because he feels battered by my words. I want him to run towards my loving words of encouragement and reverence.

Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be

...James 3:10

Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife...Proverbs 21:19

Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue;

...Song of Solomon 4:11

What I get in return far outweighs what I've sown into him. 

I am treated like the precious queen on his thrown.

great expectations

The one thing that can cause a divide in a marriage is expectations. When we fall in love and marry, we sometimes forget to tell the other person what we're expecting of them. Then we have a tendency to get angry, when they don't follow through. It's like we expect the other person to read our minds. For example, We tell our spouse we don't want to do anything special for our birthday, then get angry when he doesn't. Or instead of telling him that we need help watching the kids while we do other things, we'll secretly grumble because he doesn't just take them and keep them busy. And we could be on our way to dinner and when asked where would we like to go, we respond you decide, then silently grumble when he doesn't choose our favorite restaurant. Now do you get what I mean.

We don't want a small situation to turn into bitterness. And that's what can happen when we feel we are being overlooked or mistreated. So I encourage you to communicate! Understanding beats the world, and if you simply say what you feel, the other person will know instead of having to guess.  Share with each other, your goals and dreams often in order to stay on the same page. You're both changing as you continue to grow in your marriage. Try not expecting, but sharing what you really feel. This keeps the marriage closer and eliminates unnecessary bitterness.

His role/Her role

God has a well laid out plan for marriages through His word in scripture. He is such an awesome father that He gives us a complete and accurate guide as to how to live as husband and wife. One of the most important element that I personally bring into my home is the roles that God has laid out for both husbands and wives. I have found that when I approach my marriage from "His" way, instead of "my" way, we tend to have a happy, harmonious relationship. I let my husband be the leader that God ordained him to be and I'm his rib that supports him at all times. As his rib, much like the function of a physical one, I support and protect him.

He knows that he can go out into the world and come home to a place of peace, where all is well. By providing this place of comfort, I can now ensure that he has all he needs to fulfill his roles that God has given him. His instruction does not come from me, but from above. I simply provide the ingredients by simply fulfilling my role to enable him to do his. For example, he works better, when he has a good lunch to take with him and a hot cup of coffee to send him out on his day. He leaves home with a smile to go out and do hard work on the wings of my prayers. And he can get up each day to go do it all over again, when he knows he will be greeted with a hot meal, warm bath, and the love of his wife each day.

Operating in my role can greatly influence the way he operates in his. I've learned this valuable lesson and now, not only flourish in what God has called me to be, but I'm an encourager to my husband in the process.

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.Titas 2:5

Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.Proverbs14:1

Proverbs 31

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.Ephesians 5:22

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Ephesians 5:25-28

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.Colossians 3:19

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1Peter3:7

what he wants

My husbands top priorities:

1) encourage him and make him feel special
2) home cooked meals
3) teach and train our kids
4) peace and calm in the home
5) clean and comfortable home
 
I encourage you to take time to ask your husband, what is his top priority from his help-meet. To my surprise, he actually asked me what are my top priorities.
I pride myself on being not only a good wife, but a great one! In the run of a day, I spend countless hours making sure the home is clean and decorated, I cook from scratch and the kids are taken care of. I usually would be completely worn out by days end, but felt like I've accomplished sooo much. Then the cycle would start again for the next day. Imagine my surprise when hubs told me his top 5 list and a clean home was "last". I was like "are you serious?" It's funny how I never even thought to ask him what he felt was most important, but instead was unnecessarily wearing myself out.


Now I've decided to do things in an order that will put first things first. If I don't do much cleaning, its okay, I won't stress myself out so much for getting behind on it...whooo hooo!!!! Communicatating with your husband really can save your insanity. Why would you want to waste so much time doing things that aren't really that important. I'm a person, who wants the most important things done first. That way if I don't get it all done, I got the top priorities taken care of.

Pray for him

After Christ my husband is the head of my life. He was God appointed to take on this role to lovingly guide my children and I. Leadership can take its toll on him as a man. I have to stop and remind myself that the devil is always on the attack, plotting to mislead, temp, and make him fall astray. Because he knows that if you take down the head, the rest will follow. So, I tend look at praying for his salvation, as if I were praying for my own. Really, the fate of my family heavily depends on him leading us towards righteousness. I know that if he were to fall astray, I would then be the one, who would have to continue to show Christ with our children and him. I also know that by doing so, I'll win him over without a word, but with actions, as the scriptures state. But I pray to for his salvation among other things, so not to have to face those times. I pray that if I do, I will be strong in Christ and not try and be his conscious or look down on him in his time of need. I pray that I will be able to look at him and know that, but for the grace of God go I. 

Praying for him takes effort, but is necessary for him to be the man that my Lord has called him to be. I take comfort in knowing that as long as he is following God, he is already everything I need. If I find myself upset with him, I start to pray. It's really hard to stay mad at the person you're praying for. Blessings and cursing should not come from the same mouth. So as long as I'm blessing him, I'm not focused on being a curse to him. Love is my strongest motivation for praying for my husband. I have a prayer journal that is filled with mostly prayers just for my husband. That's just how important he is to my life. Whatever you spend most of your time, that's where your priority is. He is top priority, second only to God. So I continue to pray without ceasing, knowing that as I lift him up, I'm also lifting us all up to Jesus.

Our wedding day

I'm joining in on the Completing Him challenge over at Women Living well. Today we are to remember our vows and our wedding day. It was such a beautiful time for us. It was the coming together of two families in Christ and a happy occasion.

Divine Connection

 

 I can still remember it like it was yesterday how Michael and I met and fell in love. We met over the phone and would chat it up all hours of the night as friends. We had both been through bad relationships and were single parents. We knew that we wanted Christ to pick our spouses, because in Him all things are good. We were both practicing abstinence at the time and were completely surrendered to the Lord. Soon we started to like each other as more than friends, so we decided to meet in person. After two weeks, I made the two hour drive from Monroe to Shreveport. when I first saw him, I thought "So that's him." He thought, "That's a fine young lady." Our first stop on our first date was to meet his pastor and wife. they prayed over relationship with us. Then we went to the sanctuary and prayed for our future together. Later, we had lunch at Ryans Steak House. We talked for hours and hours about where we were headed. I began to ask Christ for guidance in leading me on whether he was the one. The next week, he came to Monroe to see me and that's when I got the sign I needed. He was kind of glowing and flashed his million dollar smile. I was in love! Just one more week of dating and he proposed on the weekend of my birthday. That was the best gift ever!! Three months of dating from Monroe to Shreveport and I finally moved in. Soon we were married, had two daughters, and had yours, mine and ours!

Today we still go out for a dates every two weeks, have movie nights for just the two of us, and have our bible study and prayer time for us. I know it's important to keep us in love and dating. We have plenty of family time, but we guard our alone time. Because we know loving parents make a happy home!

Completing Him Challenge

Well, I'm a little late but I didn't want to let this challenge pass by without joining Courtney @ Women Living Well. I've been in the process of becoming a better help meet to my husband for some time now. This is a perfect opportunity to not only have accountability, but to lean on and get other ladies perspectives as well. Can't wait to get started!!

Garden of Eden...again

As a wife, have you ever thought that maybe with your help, your husband could be the man that you want him to be. All he needs is a good woman to push him in the right direction. Or you felt lead to remind him of that time he messed up...again. Things would go so much smoother if he'd just listen to you and not his own mind. after all you know what's best for him. God did put you with him to help him and be his help meet...right? I, like so many wives have been guilty of this error of thinking. It varies in degrees, but still flawed nonetheless.

Our husbands are what God made them to be. They may not be what we want, but they are what we need. Don't be like Eve who felt she knew better than God. The God that created your husband is without blemish and doesn't need to be told that He made a mistake. There is a reason behind why your husband is who he is. If we let God tell us what is needed in our role as help meet, then we can overcome overstepping into God's purpose for this man's walk in Him.

The innocent push, can easily be seen as nagging. We have to learn to let the holy spirit convict his heart. We were not given the role of conscience. We are to be the loving hind, his soft place to land. Our opinions are very important to the make up of our marriage, but never let your opinion override what God is doing in your husband's life. Think about it, God can get faster, better and more efficient results than we ever could constantly correcting and reminding him of his faults.

And if our husbands let us guide them, then we are out of line with what the word of God says. He is called to be the head. Don't cause him to sin by losing his role in God's order. This didn't go over well in the garden of Eden and it still will not work today. No leader is perfect, but he still has a job to do and so do we. He is to lead and we are to be help meets to him and "help" him lead, not completely take over his role. When we cause him to be out of place with God, we've just given him the apple all over again.

We all must remember that none of us are perfect. If your husband were perfect, then he wouldn't need you! But he needs you, his sweet help meet because he is not perfect. It's his quest toward perfection that God assigned him a helper in the first place. God knew that Adam fell short and would need someone by his side. Which is why he took you from his rib. Be his rib and not the thorn in his side.

I know we all mean well, but this is the oldest trick that the serpent used on Eve. Don't lose your paradise to subtle trickery. Resist the devil and he shall flee! Go eat of all the other fruits and drop that apple. The apple can be bitterness, hurt feelings, resentment, angry, being manipulative, bossy, nagging, yelling, cursing, etc...All the other fruits of the garden are even sweeter; love, kindness, commitment, sacrifice, hugs and kisses, encouragement, happiness, etc...Follow Christ's word and together you and your Adam can have the Garden of Eden.

His-mission

The word submission is God's design for all of our lives. God has asked us to each submit to what He has called of us.

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Ephesians 5:21

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord Ephesians 5:22

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7

Submit yourselves for the Lord's sake to every authority instituted among men: whether to the king, as the supreme authority Peter 2:13



So ladies we are not alone in our call to submit. We all have our call to submit, but let's focus on our submission as wives.  If you look at the word submit, what does it mean?


Submit:
To yield or surrender (oneself) to the will or authority of another.
To subject to a condition or process.
To commit (something) to the consideration or judgment of another.

Take some time to look at wifely submission in another light. Instead of looking at it as sub-mission, try looking at it, in its truest form of the word His-mission. Because it is the call of Christ for us to do His will concerning our husbands. We are fulfilling His role for our marriages and our lives. We are blessed for doing what God's word says, rather than what we want for our lives. Hismission is a beautiful way to honor the Lord and show Christ in our actions.

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 1 Peter3:1

This has little to do with your husband and more to do with Christ. You are being faithful when you submit yourself to His word and His-mission for your marriage. Will you follow His design for your marriage today? You will reap all the benefits of a blessed marriage if you will just take a leap of faith and trust God. You'll be so glad that you did.

It's the little things

(photo from zazzle.com)

Marriage is such a big decision in your life. It's one of the biggest decisions you'll ever make. Why not spend as much time as you did paying attention to all the little details of your wedding day, on your marriage. As much planning and attention to detail as it took to pull off the big day. It will take just as much planning and attention to detail to pull off the rest of your lives together. Start today and ask yourself what you can do today to add a little something to your marriage.


I believe marriage is a living spirirt all of its on. A special bond that exists between a married couple and God. He honors marriage as we should honor it. I hope you will take time out to honor your vows with just a small gesture to keep it going in His glory. Because to love, honor and cherish your spouse, is to love, honor, and cherish Christ!


It doesn't take a grand notion to put an effort into your commitment. I just went out and bought pajamas because, I felt that hubs would like to see me looking cute and cozy sometimes. Not a big deal, but a what a big impact it had on him. When he saw them, he went cooked dinner....lol Not the reaction I was looking for, but hey these are the perks ladies. When he saw that I took a little step toward making him happy, he took a step toward making me happy. And so we each are working together to turn small things into lasting memories of love.


May your marriages be blessed in Christ.