Ride or Die Consequences

There's a saying that goes, "ride or die." The saying implies that someone will be there for a person when they're down, or stay with them no matter what. This quality is admirable and should be a balanced, give and take, part of any relationship. But there can come a time when it can become one sided and not benefit you. Know when enough is enough!! A person can ride with someone way past time; you can wait for financial assistance from them that never comes, you can tolerate cheating for way too long, you can be abused both mentally and physically, etc. Examples of this is when you're faithful to someone in prison for years that won't even be faithful during your shift at work! Or when you ride with someone ten years who won't ride to the jewelry store to buy an engagement ring? God did not create ANYONE to be somebody's fool!! It's one thing to help somebody when they need you but make sure you ask yourself if they would do the same for you? If you have trouble answering that then remember what they have done "for" you or "to" you recently and that should answer your question. Don't ever constantly give to someone who never gives back, this includes both family and friends. You'll know when you have given too much because you can feel it in your spirit that you are drained, tired, and worn out. When you ride too much you could die spiritually, mentally and even physically.

Protect our daughters!!

I am a mother of four girls ranging in different ages and stages. I'm so proud to be able to raise them and guide them in life. But what is becoming more and more difficult to deal with, is the worlds view on women and the horrible influences on our daughters.You don't have to look far to see half naked women on billboards, hear provocative song lyrics on the radio, and see the sexual innuendos in commercials already.

 But even the younger girls are being shown sexualized on T.V. also...

My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding

Toddlers and Tiaras

Dance Moms

Not to mention the reality shows that promote bad behavior in a glorifying light...

Bad Girls Club

 Teen Mom

I fear that the world is giving girls a false sense of reality! The world has ruled that sex sells and it shows! That bad behavior, drinking, drugs, teen pregnancy, vulgar speech, underage sex, fights, etc. is good and should be seen as typical way of life. I pray for my daughters and the world I have to release them into someday when they are adults. Until they are, I have to protect their little minds and hearts from being damaged as much as I can. I sit down and explain these myths that the world has given them as truth.

myth #1=your beauty is your worth

My husband and I often reassure them that they are beautiful because they are children of God. It's not what's on the outside that matters, but the inside.

Proverbs 31:30 Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

1 Peter 3:3-4 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 

myth #2=if you got it, flaunt it

Videos, ads, songs, commercials, etc... do not show how real women who value themselves dress. This is merely a marketing tool based on sex sells, and in our society it does. But I remind them that we are in the world not of it.

Proverbs 11:22 As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.

1 Timothy 2:9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;

 myth #3=bad behavior is revered

Only in so-called reality shows where this behavior makes for great ratings, or among chaotic minded people is this acceptable. I also explain that in real life, fighting, threats, DUI, drugs, etc... has real life consequences because there is a little something called the law that makes this unacceptable. But even more important is how you handle yourself before God!

Titus 2:3 older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Titus3:2 To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, showing all meekness to all men.

I assure you that I am not blaming the media! I know that raising our girls is a parents job, not the media. That's why I teach them to resist the devil and he will flee. I teach them that all of these images, songs, ideals, etc.. are available, but you don't have to follow them. And I'm not delusional to the fact that they will ultimately live their lives their way once they leave my home. But I'm a firm believer in God's teachings on raising children, and lifting them up in prayer! 

Provers 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

God bless our daughters!!!

DDT

T2

HL

Bullying

This is a serious problem in school, athletics, children programs, and even children church. Bullying is emotional and psychological abuse! The effects of it can last a lifetime, and even in extreme cases end an innocent child's life!! Children should feel safe when around other children, not living in fear. Every child has the right to live, play and go where they please without treats or being hurt physically or mentally.

It takes adults to intervene when we see a situation arise that is making a child feel uncomfortable. We as parents need to stand up against bullies and teach our children that it is wrong to be mean or pick on other children. I've personally witnessed a child bullying right in front of their parents or mother and nothing was said. I could not believe that a mom would allow their child to hurt another child and not correct the situation. It is not okay or normal childish behavior to want to hurt another child.

I have a personal investment in this topic because my son is very smart and wears glasses. He also has some level of PDD(pervasive developmental disorder). He's in the testing stage right now but he is not socially adequate. Or to put in plain terms really shy and awkward in social situations. He has been a target for quite some time and me partnering with the school have made a real impact on how he was being treated. But my worry is now for the children who are not so lucky. 


It is up to "us" to stand up against bullies and protect children!! Don't wait until "your" child becomes a target before you start teaching them to respect other people. Let someone in charge know if you see a child being bullied and teach your children to do the same. This has made a big difference at my children school and programs. The adults have reacted positively toward improving their acknowledgment toward bullying. I pray that you will become aware and start to help end the problem, so that a child's life may be saved or that they can live happy and healthy!! And if your child is the victim of bullying, I pray the Christ will heal their hearts and sooth their spirits, so that the cycle doesn't continue!

Bully (movie trailer)

Visit http://thebullyproject.com/, Dr. Phil's Anti Bully Movement, 
or Defeat the Label for more info


WLW 
AWWBHH

Follower Opinion

Hello ladies of the Lord! Many blessings to you. I have been working on adding some new features and making small changes to my blog. This is so you all can really enjoy your experience here and have features that interest you most. So, I'm calling on you all for your opinions.

1)What topics would you like to read more on?
2)On Feminine Fridays, would you like to see the name of clothing and/or price listed as well under each outfit. It can be one or both options.
3)How do you guys feel about a homemaking/craft link-up each week?
4)Any other suggestions?

I'm on Facebook

I just started a new group on Facebook with the same name. Come over and join us!!!
If you haven't yet, add me as a friend on Facebook and I will add you to the group...that's it! I look forward to reading what you have to share with all of us. Don't forget to spread the word! 

Buildeth Her House Facebook Group

The guidelines to this group are simple...

What we stay away from.
Please no drama, bashing any ones beliefs, profanity, or gossiping.
Respect each others views on life!

What we encourage.
Let us uplift, praise, worship, fellowship and share your knowledge! I want this to be a group where we can encourage and be encouraged by one another.

Who are welcome?
Christians, SAHM, WAHM, Women who work, Wives, Mothers, Single moms, all denominations, Bloggers and non bloggers are all welcome. Everyone has something to share.

What can we post here in the group?

• Start a bible study online here if you'd like
• Prayer requests or testimonies
• Monthly book club that you may want us all to share for those that can.
• Blog posts are encouraged here, so that we may find and follow some new blogs out there.
• If you have an Etsy shop or business, please share the link so we may visit.
• Post giveaways and reviews on products/books/websites that we may like.
• Share with us photos, christian music videos, music, scriptures etc... 
• Tell us your best recipes, even with a pic
• Organization, cleaning, recycle, and purging tips
• Home school schedules, sites, curriculum, printables etc...
• Videos, music, scriptures, quotes, photos and the like 
• Funny stories and fun family outings
• Crafts, DIY, home decor, refashion, knitting, sewing, gardening etc...
• Motherhood and parenting/adoption/step parenting
• Marriage advice, tips, articles or great stories
• And most of all....HAVE FUN!!!

 If you know anyone who would like to join us, please invite them over, we'd LOVE to have them!

October is End Domestic Violence Month

October is end domestic violence month!! I'm using this blog to raise awareness for anyone who needs help to get to a safe, peaceful place in their life. Many women, men, elderly, and children are living in fear of their own homes. Please know that this is not your fault and that fear is of the devil. Pray, seek safety, and get counseling to heal. Today could be the first day of the rest of your life in peace!!!


Hotlines:
National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE (7233) 
The Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN) 1 800-656-HOPE Elder Abuse Hotline 888-800-1409
The domestic abuse helpline for Men/Women 1 888 7HELPLINE

Know the signs:
Physical Abuse
Emotional Abuse
Violence Wheel
Domestic Violence Cycle
Child abuse and neglect 
Elder abuse and neglect
Teen dating violence pamphlet online
Notice warning signs in your family or friends
Getting Help, steps to making a plan

Resources and Awareness:
Become a member of NCADV here
You can download this pamphlet that is full of info that can help you.
Register for the National Call of Unity on October 4. (Mourn, Celebrate, Connect)
13 ways to help end domestic violence
Religious and Spiritual Leadrers against domestic violence proclamation
Dr. Phil's support against domestic violence. Order tee shirt or bracelet here
Donate to National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Wear a purple ribbon or display on your web space.

Musical artist Atmosphere makes domestic violence awareness video:

Protecting Our Family

I found a video online purely by accident.
There were several, but I'll only post one.
I censor what my family is exposed to,
but I had no idea what we were exposed to even when we were careful.
Some of the products/movies we wouldn't have anyway,
but the more innocent ones surprised me, especially Disney movies. 

These types of videos make me look at everything differently now....

I had no idea of the dangers that could be hidden in plain sight.
So I ask the question, are we really protecting our families from the worlds brain washing.

And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them....Ephesians 5:11

Warning:Contains strong images not for little ones!!!

October 31

It is a personal choice as to how families choose to celebrate October 31. Whether it be a fall festival, trunk or treating, trick or treating, reformation day celebration, all hollows eve party, etc... I'm simply a sinner saved by grace and therefore choose not to judge my neighbor.  I'll leave that to the most high God. Only He knows your heart and intentions in this life. I merely want to show love by educating those of us, including myself, who knew little about reformation day.


for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7


Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven: Luke 6:37


Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against one of your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD. Leviticus:19:18

October 31 is reformation day, a liturgical  festival for many Christians. It is a religious holiday celebrated  in remembrance of the reformation lead my Martin Luther. He wrote the 95 theses and posted them on the castle door of the church in Wittenburg, Germany October 31, 1517.  The 95 theses were written to oppose the false doctrines being taught by the church during that time. The church sold  pardons or indulgences in exchange for sins, so that people could get into heaven. Luther stated, "If we sinners were to earn salvation by our own good works and merits, we would be lost and without hope. But through the working of the Holy Spirit, the reformers rediscovered the gospel--The wonderful news that Jesus Christ lived, died, and rose again to redeem and justify us."

To learn more go here. Or you can always find many sources over the internet.

Take time out to remember the five solas, of the Reformation: by Scripture alone, by grace alone, by Christ alone, by faith alone, and to God be the glory alone. (exert from ondoctrine.com)

Scripture alone-
You, however, continue in the things you have learned and become convinced of,
knowing from whom you have learned them,
and that from childhood you have known the sacred writings
which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation
through faith which is in Christ Jesus.
All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable
for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness;
so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.
2 Timothy 3:14-17

Grace alone- 
But the free gift is not like the offense.
For if by the one man's offense many died,
much more the grace of God and the gift by the grace of the one Man,
Jesus Christ, abounded to many.
Romans 5:15


Christ alone-
For there is one God, and one mediator also between God and men, the man Christ Jesus,
who gave Himself as a ransom for all,
the testimony given at the proper time.
1 Timothy 2:5-6

Faith alone-
Therefore, having been justified by faith,
we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,
through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand,
and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.
Romans 5:1-2

God be the glory alone-
Oh, the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God!
How unsearchable are His judgments and unfathomable His ways!
For who has known the mind of the Lord, or who became His counselor?
Or who has first given to Him that it might be paid back to him again?
For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be the glory forever.
Amen.
Romans 11:33-36

Have a blessed weekend!!

End the Silence

October is End Domestic Violence Month. I thought I'd raise awareness on this subject by posting a related video to help raise awareness. You can join in and  be apart of the solution by donating, volunteering, or raising awareness on your personal sites.
Go here or here to join the awareness campaign.
Go here to order a shirt and bracelet for a donation.
Show your support by wearing a purple ribbon.

Coverings

I don't practice full body covering or wear scarf coverings. I do have a constant spiritual calling to remain modest and feminine. I do so out of respect for my Lord and my husband. But I do admire the fact that any lady can cover themselves, just to serve God. It's foreign to me and many others but it takes a lot of discipline to be able to make that kind of covenant. I can't even imagine what kind of dedicated woman is behind the veil, but she truly does honor God with her dress to a level, I may never reach. Many women choose coverings, not just one particular group. I know of women of all walks of faith, who take part in covering themselves for god. If this is you, I would love to get your perspective on this topic.

Unschooling?

I've never heard of this! I do give my children every opportunity to learn outside of what they are taught. Any area of interest and I buy books, teach and add to what they learn in school already. My children have chores and structure and it is what works best for our family. Honestly, I raise my children according to God's word.

Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6


I know I wouldn't allow my kids to run my home with whatever they wanted, especially the family who are lenient on hygiene.....ewe. My son would never bathe...lol But whatever works for you, I guess. I tend to live and let live.

Perfectly Ordinary Days!

I saw this video and it really makes you stop, texting, blogging and push away from the laptop to take a look at what you're really missing out on. She states so beautifully that it's not the moments that are big you should cherish, but the perfectly ordinary seemingly non important days in your children's lives that matter as well.
This video really made me think, and I hope you'll take some time to watch it. I'm off to just sit and play dolls with my littlest ones, and maybe play a game of checkers with my older ones.

Black Friday!!

Well it's that time again...for holiday shopping. I usually save any big ticket items I need for my home for this time of year, because I can't afford to spend a lot on them. This year I'm looking for cookware, a vacuum, and a TV etc...My sister and I have been doing our traditional black Friday routine for over twelve years now. We have it down to almost a military strategy. We go eat breakfast and exchange our Christmas item for the season. Like a snowflake mug, jingle bell necklace, holiday sweater etc. We always start with electronics because they usually offer the most savings. Then we divide and conquer!! She goes and gets what she needs while I go get what deals I need. Then we meet up at the register to check out. If we both have a lot of shopping to do, one of us will save our place in line while the other shop. We eat lunch and decide what other stores we may want to visit for the day, then end our shopping trip by buying wrapping paper and sitting at home watching a Christmas movie for that year and eating cookies and egg nog. Even if it weren't a sale, we'd still find a day to get together and do this once a year. She lives in Texas and I live in Louisiana, so we don't get to see each other often. (FYI, I won't be in town to post Feminine Friday!!)

So, Do you have special plans for the holiday shopping? Are you brave enough to face BLACK FRIDAY!!!!! (muhahahahaaha) Okay I over did it just a little.

Behind closed doors

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month!!

Behind closed doors someone is living on the wings of prayers. Wives are putting on makeup to cover up scars from the world. While the internal bruises last a lifetime. Children are suffering in silence baring their mothers pain. Families are pretending that all is right to neighbors. Women are walking on eggshells, trying to keep peace when there is no compromise. Husbands are feared, instead of respected by their family. Silent screams from damaged souls cry out in the night, but no one dare utter a sound. Marching to the beat of a deadly drum, not one step out of line..or else. Knees are sore from endless prayers for help. Regret rests on those who inflict pain, but only after damage has been done. Anger from past wounds ignite senseless acts. Only to continue in a heinous dance for the next generation, who witness too closely.




Look to the heavens for your deliverance. He will guide you before you hurt or be hurt. Lean not to your own understanding, He will give you an answer, even if it's not one you wanted to hear. Trust in His wisdom and follow His lead out of your ordeal. I pray that the eternal screams of hurt will be washed away from innocent ears and that regret of hurting someone and bruises of those hurt will turn into to resurrection. Walk in newness and be reborn!

Please pray with me for healing for families who are suffering through this!!

Judge refuses marriage to interracial couple

I can't believe that we still have people who believe this way. I can only pray that our country rises above this kind of injustice once and for all with the new generations to come. I also pray that Jesus will touch Judge Bardwell's heart and give him a heart after His own.

Keith Bardwell's quote: "I'm not a racist. I just don't believe in mixing the races that way, I have piles and piles of black friends. They come to my home, I marry them, they use my bathroom. I treat them just like everyone else."


Has society really changed in your opinion, or are people still harboring hate that is just unseen?

Jon and Kate plus eight

I just watched the interview with Jon Gosselin. I feel so sorry for any family that has to endure divorce. The children are especially vulnerable and hurt right now. I can only imagine that this whole ordeal has caused them great pain. Fame at any cost is never a good thing.

The one thing that really stuck out was when Jon said he loved his new girlfriend more than Kate. Private matters are just that private. They both saw that their marriage fell under the public eye. Why continue down this destructive path? The children and their well being need to come first. They need time to heal and grasp what has happened to their family. The last thing they need to hear or read is that dad doesn't love mom anymore. That is just too sad. They will have a constant reminder that their world has been crushed, why not soften the blow. I would have liked to see them not add fuel to the fire by broadcasting hate over the media.

I will continue to pray for this family and hope they can start putting the childrens lives first and find some happiness that they once had before all the glitz, glamour and gossip!

Presidental School Speech

My children were actually excited today to be able to hear from the president at school. I may not agree with all he stands for, but I am glad that the children feel important that the president will talk to them about staying in school and getting good grades.

They were actually motivated to be involved in school since hearing about the speech. Not bad for just fifteen minutes from our president to get them on board with education...lol That's better than what I've been getting. I decided since I can't be there with them, to talk about it when we all get home to make sure they understand and are clear on what we teach as a family.

I don't want them to think they are responsible for anything other than doing their best at school and not be confused by anything in politics. This will be done just as a precautionary measure. Other than that I hope they enjoy it.

Presidents Ronald Reagan and George H. W. Bush gave speeches to our children and I loved to see that they cared for our youth. So, it's a good tradition that was started by former presidents to keep kids motivated in doing their best in all that they do.

Christ is first in our home and I pray that my children never lose that no matter what state our country is in. I know that God will always protect us from the chaos of this world and give us peace in the mist of it.

Surrendering

I've just recently received the book, The Surrenderd Wife. It really has a lot of good information in it. Surrendering is such a beautiful concept. With all things, you take the information and use it on a level that's comfortable for you. My husband has really appreciated the extra care and love he gets from me these days. It amazes me how, if I submit to God and His word, how much He blesses me in my marriage. I personally apply some of the practices of the surrendering to my marriage and it's been great!! Other info from the book, I left because it did not fit our lifestyle. How about you, would you consider yourself a surrendered wife? And if so, how far would you go to submit?



I found this video and thought I'd add it to this post to show just how far some women take surrendering to heart. I have no objection to it, if that's what works for you and your husband. I'm just glad I was able to find a middle ground for me and my hubbby.



http://video.msn.com/video.aspx?mkt=en-AU&brand=ninemsn&vid=44e8f2bd-5da6-484c-9a48-69f0224ca077

Life-like dolls

These lifelike babies are popping up all over the world in a new phenomenon. These babies are so life-like and they can even come with a heartbeat. They feel like real babies with velvety, vinyl skin and hair individually threaded. When I saw them I thought they were real babies. The women who care for them, take them out for strolls in the park, buy them clothes, strap them in car seats, and even have nurseries for them. Here are a few comments that were taken from various website interviews.

Reborns, she said, “never grow out of their clothes, never soil them. It's just fabulous. The only difference, of course, is these guys don't move.”

she wanted a real baby, but was too busy to commit to caring for a real one. A reborn doll satisfies her maternal instincts, she said, without all the carrying on and mess.

They cost from 1,000-4,000 dollars. Custom made, from photos, are even more expensive. They have a heartbeat option as well. Love or hate them, they have become a huge sensation all over the world. Selling in the thousands each year. I don't own one and probably never will, but they are adorable! Do you feel this is harmless or a deep psychological issue?

Here are a few pictures of "babies" for "adoption".

Election

We as Christians have a duty to our country to vote for who we feel is the best candidate. But what amazes me, is the attitudes that we as Christians have adopted, when it comes to politics. I've seen and heard, some cruel things coming from the mouths of Christians. We must never forget, who we are. We have a higher calling to our Lord to uphold ourselves to standards above what's going on in the world around us. We are called to love, not judge anyone. I take note of both candidates' faults. But don't we all have faults? He who is without sin cast the first stone. As Christians, let's band together in prayer, instead of speaking bad about someone. We can be a people that can change things through prayer. We can pray that no matter who leads our country that our Lord will keep them and guide them. I just thank God that no matter, who wins, I have the best candidate running our country. He is just, loyal, faithful, all-knowing, merciful, grace, love, hope, peace, life, etc.. the list can just go on and on til all eternity. My Lord Jesus, is my pick for the leader of our country!